When your little one talks back, it is imperative that you understand that how you respond now greatly affects the future. If you ignore it, it does not go away- it will only get worse. When you allow your little one to be the boss at an early age, they grow up believing that is how they should act.
This being said, here are five tips from an experienced mom on how to handle your little one talking back.
1. Count to Ten- to Yourself
Seriously, take a breath, or thirty if you need to. Someone has to act like an adult in this situation, so you need to be calm. I have actually seen parents allow themselves to get so angry with their child that they begin to mimic the child, just to “show them what it feels like”. If your young child is acting more maturely than you are, this is never going to work. Throw in the towel now. Instead, take a breath and say a quick prayer if you feel the need.
2. Get Eye Level
It may be difficult, but you really need to be at eye level when you communicate with your children- especially when you are trying to correct behavior. You towering over your child will create fear and intimidation. You want respect, not fear. Get on eye level and make eye contact as you speak.
3. Talk to Your Child, Not at Them
Please do remember that you are training your children to behave in certain ways that can affect not only your relationship, but every other relationship your child has. Talking at your child as if they are an object to be fussed as is not conducive for healthy behavior later in life. Instead, speak with your child. Communicate with them.
4. Be Stern but Loving
Let’s first remember that you are the parent, not your child. This makes you the boss, not them. They are allowed to have their opinions, but the ultimate decision is up to you. Stick to your rules but do so in a way that is authoritarian, not borderline abusive.
5. Love Them Unconditionally and Praise Good Behavior
Your child should never feel as though you no longer love them. Of course, there are times when this happens, no matter what you do or do not do. When they mess up, though, respond effectively but still let them know that you love them. When they speak to you in the correct manner, praise them for doing so.
So, what does this look like in practice? I’ll show you:
When my youngest daughter says something she should not or in a tone she should not, I place her in my lap and make eye contact. I say in a firm yet gentle tone, “That is not how you talk to mommy. That is very mean.” She immediately straightens up at this point- her expression showing pain because she feels she has disappointed me- and in her regular tone says, “I’m sorry, Mommy.” I then say, “I forgive you, but the next time you need to tell me (whatever the message was, i.e. “No, I don’t want peas with dinner), this is how you say it…” This sets the proper expectations for her.
I have four children who I have used this with. This process is effective enough that when my youngest daughter wants to talk to me, she crawls in my lap and looks me straight in the eye.
Even my almost 16 year old, still comes to me, sits down beside me, and makes eye contact when he wants to say something. I will not say that there is never a slipup in my home- they are kids, after all- but I can say that they only tend to happen when my kids have heard something on TV or YouTube, so there is an external factor.
I go through the process again each time, and each time it works well. For the most part, though, we have peaceful conversations- no yelling, screaming, or anger. They have all four learned that approaching me in a respectful manner gets them the attention they want- not misbehaving- so they act accordingly.
A Soldier’s Dog Proves Canine Memory is Strong
There’s a well-known saying that a dog is man’s best friend. This sentiment is assumed to go back ages to the very early beginnings of man, when dogs were domesticated and trained to live with humans versus attack them or be hunted by them. In modern times, we see them as pets at a distance, but up close to dog owners, they become more than animals. They become our best friends and partners. And the feeling is reciprocated as any dog owner with a bond knows. That was the case for Lt. Dylan Cox.
Like all military personnel these days, Lt. Cox was called for duty and had to work overseas. Unfortunately, South Korea where he was based was a half world away from his 2-year old dog, Bentley. The golden retriever had just had barely two years to bond with his owner before Cox had to ship out. Instead, the dog was left behind, and stayed with Lt. Cox’s wife, Amelia, and waited. Most would think that a dog doesn’t have the ability to remember, but that was the case for Bentley. The canine clearly proved not only did he remember Lt. Cox after an extended absence, the dog really missed his absent owner as well.
Lt. Cox, however, was worried. Throughout the whole trip back to the U.S. he kept wondering if Bentley would still have a connection with him. Generally, dogs seem to act in the moment, and Bentley never behaved different from that stereotype. So, would the dog act weird when Lt. Cox finally got home and came in the door? He wasn’t sure, and the closer he got to home, the more the soldier’s anxiety grew inside him.
Part of the fear had to do with how young Bentley was when the Lieutenant left for duty. A dog with a good number of years had a higher probability of retaining memory of an owner, but a puppy was another story. So, Lt. Cox and his wife tried to be creative about reminding the dog even while the soldier was overseas. Using digital video, Amelia and Lt. Cox gave Bentley the ability to “see” and “hear” his owner despite the distance. And the trick seemed to work. Bentley would act like he recognized Dylan and tried to look at the soldier on the Facetime screen directly when Lt. Cox talked.
Finally, after spending a long six months in South Korea, Lt. Cox was allowed to return home in the U.S. again. Dylan shipped back to Austin, Texas, and arrived at his own house doorstep. Normally, someone comes in a door, a dog inside is the first to see who’s coming in, moving far faster than the resident human. Bentley was no exception. However, instead of growling or barking, Bentley immediately perked up in full excitement when he heard Dylan announce himself coming in. The dog literally went bonkers as well.
Bentley was so freaked out about Lt. Cox being physically present instead of on a video screen, the dog was shaking. Amelia was worried Bentley was going to have an accident at the rate he was going. AS Dylan came into the kitchen Bentley jumped onto Lt. Cox, practically bringing the soldier down to the floor. The dog was so excited his tail was smacking anything within close proximity over.
Amelia just smiled and took in the sight. She was never worried that Bentley would forget Dylan. Instead, she made sure to have a camera ready and filmed the whole thing so they would all have it for posterity years later. And Bentley made it crystal clear that dogs remember extremely well regardless of time.
Alec Baldwin and Ireland Baldwin Are Mending the Rift
Alec and Ireland Baldwin have always had a tumultuous relationship. Ireland commented on the supportiveness of her family and friends in 2015 when she voluntarily checked herself into rehab for stress and emotional trauma. She didn’t share many details of her stay but did include that it was not related to drugs or alcohol. However, we can glean that some of her trauma was likely related to her relationship with her father. Some of that trauma was brought to light in 2007 when Alec Baldwin left a nasty voicemail on her phone after she didn’t answer a scheduled phone call. In the voicemail, he called her a “rude, thoughtless little pig” among other insults. In 2019, Ireland went on to roast her father on Comedy Central saying that she knew as much about him as the audience did, alluding to their distant relationship. While that was her chance for a little revenge, it was also a moment for her to share some biting truths about the toxicity shared between them.
Recently, Ireland talked in an interview about how she is repairing her relationship with her father. She described going to therapy with Alec and the long process of unpacking years of verbal abuse, teenage acting out and the toll that the media took on their already rocky dynamic. She described that the media often inflated any tensions between them, putting a spotlight on their troubles. This made any kind of healing nearly impossible when their worst moments were publicized. She also emphasized the importance of sharing bonding experiences and traveling together. This seems like a real change of heart from what we’ve seen in the past. She mentioned that Kobe Bryant’s death was a profound wake-up call for her about the fragility of life and the importance of forgiving and staying in the present. His death caused her to introspect about what might happen if she lost her Dad. After reflecting, she felt that it was important to repair that relationship and live in the present instead of the past. She was quoted saying that “family is everything” and she is living those words while mending the rift with Alec.
Publicly, both of them have admitted that there was blame to share for their dysfunctional relationship. After his nasty divorce with Kim Basinger, Alec felt that it was difficult to stay in Ireland’s life based on the custody agreement. These tensions likely lead to the anger and frustration when Ireland missed his call. Ireland herself admits that she was rebellious and she naturally sided with her mom through the divorce proceedings which made things difficult for Alec. Kim has said that she has no problems with Alec anymore and that they’re amicable. With Ireland and Alec working on their relationship and Kim at least in neutral territory, the Baldwin family is off the battleground and working towards a better family future.
When the Cowboy Walks Into the Tractor Store and It’s No Joke
A cowboy walks into a Tractor store with his horse. It sounds so much like a joke that you might be waiting for the punchline. But it really happened, according to Robin Morris, who posted about her experience on Facebook. Morris described the man as elderly, and said that he walked right up to one of the staff and asked about the pet policy. The gist of the discussion was about whether they’d count his horse as a pet on a leash if he brought him inside the store. The answer, of course, was a definitive yes.
A Caring Friend
The elderly cowboy was as worried about his hoofed friend as anyone would be for a 4-pawed pal. It was warm outside, and he didn’t want to leave his horse to stand in the heat while he purchased the feed. It’s just that you probably have never seen a horse in a store before, even if it was a feed-and-farming equipment store. So, even the idea seems bound for an Old West tale or legend.
The cowboy rides up to the store, dismounts from his horse, and then leads his mount into the building. It’s the stuff out of some unexpected alternate universe or freaky legend. It demonstrates not only the depths to which a cowboy will go for his friend, but it also allows us to see the kindness and worth of fellow human beings.
- The Tractor Store had a policy of allowing pets and their owners to visit the store together, as long as a leash is used.
- The cowboy cared enough about his 4-hoofed friend to ask for permission to make sure that the horse’s presence was acceptable.
- The staff were open and kind enough to allow the man to bring his horse into the store.
It may have been the first time a man ever led a horse into the store. Given the acceptance and openness of the Tractor Store, it could be just the first of many such incidents. If they allowed one cowboy to walk through the store with his horse, what will the rest of the menagerie of animals look like?
The Rest of the Story
Beyond the story of the cowboy who walked into the Tractor Store, and even led his horse across the store, there are the witnesses. It must have been a shock to see a man with a horse following so close behind him. Even if it did seem surreal, Morris captured the experience via video. The incident was so out-of-the-ordinary and heart-warming that the story and video immediately inspired a viral reception.
You don’t have to be an animal lover or a fan of Old Westerns to appreciate the idea that the depths of friendship can be found in all forms, shapes, and sizes. There’s also a tie in with age and wisdom, which leads to an understanding and appreciation. It doesn’t just happen overnight. It can’t be fully understood by onlookers, but even the casual observer can see that the horse and his cowboy have a special connection.
Homeless Dogs Are Being Re-Homed After Hurricane Florence
In September of 2018, Hurricane Florence ravaged West Africa, Bermuda, Cape Verde, and the East Coast of the United States. The hurricane’s impact was devastating, with over 30,000 homes destroyed by the record amounts of rainfall. The damage was costly, with an estimated $17 billion spent to restore Carolina structures.
The storm affected animals as well as people. Most pet owners make sure to bring their pets along during an evacuation. However, not all pet owners do this; some leave behind their cats and dogs. Shelter animals are also vulnerable during storm evacuations. During the chaos of a hurricane evacuation, it’s often up to rescuers and aid workers to take care of animals that have been left behind. And that is what happened with Hurricane Florence, with rescuers worked around the clock to find and aid animals at risk.
But rescue workers weren’t the only ones to step up to the plate; during the height of Hurricane Florence, members of the community volunteered to take in shelter animals during the storm. This effort was organized by Saving Grace, a nonprofit organization that helps to re-home homeless animals. As news of Hurricane Florence broke out, Saving Grace staff members sent out a call to aid from animal lovers within the community. The organization posted this note on Facebook: “We are working with our Eastern North Carolina shelters today to evacuate some pretty precious cargo! Please sign up to host a dog through our website.”
The nonprofit posted similar messages across various social media platforms. After Saving Grace sent out the call to aid, animal lovers in the community lined up to foster the homeless animals from Hurricane Florence. One of the foster volunteers was Ali Standish, who posted the shelter’s lines to Twitter. The photos posted to social media depicted an organized effort, with leashes, collars, and packages being handed out to the volunteers under tents. Ali ended up taking home Floyd, a puppy that liked to cuddle with her on the couch. After posting heartwarming photos of her time spent with Floyd, Ali was flooded with positive messages praising her for helping the animal shelter situation. While some Twitter users called her a hero, Ali made sure to thank the staff members of Saving Grace for their amazing work. She also posted other updates of Floyd, writing about how often the puppy has slept in the aftermath of the storm in one tweet.
Saving Grace also posted updates on social media, photographing empty cages to show what a successful effort the fostering effort had been. On Facebook, the nonprofit posted the following message: “We are grateful for those individuals in our community who stepped up yesterday to open their homes to 124 Saving Grace dogs… We may have a small shelter but our volunteers and the difference they make in the lives of many is huge!”
Police Dogs Have Been Used For Centuries To Protect Citizens
Police Dog History
Law enforcement has trained Dogs, since the Middle Ages, financially supported by tithes from villages to provide for parish constable’s bloodhounds to find criminal suspects, described as outlaws. Bloodhounds were employed throughout Europe. France used Police Dogs in the 14th Century, England. Dogs on a wide scale were used in Continental Europe, which caused Paris Police use of dogs against prowling criminal gangs at night. Ghent, Belgium police department in 1899, organized the first police dog service program. Sir Charles Warren, the Commissioner of the Metropolitan Police of London, because of vilification from the press, was forced to use Police Dogs in 1889, because Jack the Ripper was able to escape apprehension. As a result, two bloodhounds were trained, despite one of them biting the commissionaire, in the 1880s. Police Dogs have a widespread use even in the private sector where night watchman employs dogs.
Dog Training and Breed
The dog handlers must take police academy training, which takes one to two years, including patrol experience. At that point, the canine and handler will transfer to a canine unit. For a dog to enter training, it must be successful in a basic obedience training course. Handler commands must be obeyed be without any faltering. The officer must have control over the dog to not injure a suspect. The dog’s training includes maintaining Public Order, anti-drug, anti-explosive, to take down suspects, find corpses, and search and rescue. The dogs can be trained to be a single purpose or dual-purpose dogs. The single-purpose dog is backup and is trained for personal protection and tracking. The dual-purpose dog is trained to do both single-purpose and also detect either explosives or narcotics. The dog must distinguish different types of drugs by scent. If the handler suspects that the dog has identified a narcotic, this is considered reasonable suspicion of a crime, and in the United States the suspect’s belongings and a car can be searched without a warrant,
K9 officer’s training centers around knowing how to care for the dogs and learn their abilities, which includes command cues and competent working with the dog as a team and a partner. It is not unusual for Police dogs to be sworn in as officers, and they receive their badges and ID numbers,
Any dog that has natural skills for hunting retrieving and detection assistance can be trained as Police dogs. German Shepherds are a common K9 breed but other breeds such as the Dutch Shepherd, Bloodhound, Rottweiler, Labrador, Belgian Malinois, Beagle, and the and Retriever breeds have been successfully trained. Intentional injuring or killing a police dog is a criminal offense in many countries.
Caring For An Injured Police Dog
It’s a big deal for Greenwood Village Colorado’s Police Department to have a K-9 unit with a SWAT trained K-9 Team consisting of an officer/handler and one police dog. The K-9 team offers important services to Greenwood Village’s almost 16,000 residents. To support the k-9 team, fundraisers are important. The police department is proud of its K-9 unit and encourages children to meet and understand the function of the police dog. This support of the K-9 team is similar to how Middle Age villages financially supported police dog activities to fight crime. The K-9 team is SWAT trained and is a vital component of the department’s Emergency Response Team. The K-9 unit, at the request of the local schools, performs proactive searches of the school children’s lockers, sniffing for narcotics.
A Greenwood Village K-9 officer Miner, a German Shepard, was seriously injured and needed extensive surgery because he ate a toy that caused an internal blockage, requiring major surgery. Miner is a significant emotional and financial investment. He needed to return to service, but the police department did not have the funds to treat the serious injury. Funds were sought, and Back the Blue K-9 Force, a charitable organization, volunteered to seek the funds for this medical emergency. As it turns out, the Back the Blue K-9 Force decided that it could pay for the entire cost of the medical bills. This organization is committed to the K-9 Team, as seen by its name, has also sought funds to purchase protective vests for the K-9’s and to purchase dogs for K-9 training.
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